Since summer has started, I have been lazing around and watching a lot of tv shows. I could lie in bed all day watching shows, all kinds of shows, and just let time pass. Which is what made me want to voice out what I feel about tv shows and how the storyline somehow surface in reality, although in much subtle manners.
Friendships, love and family relationships are the most recurring themes in tv shows. To be honest, I feel like though I have a fair number of friends, but theres only a small number of close friends that I let in to my self-protected world. I have always had this feeling of repulse (kept to myself most of the time) of people who act like they are close to me even though I barely know them for months. What are those mere few months in comparison to friends and people who have known me for years? Nothing. That is precisely why I dislike people who pretend like they know you so darn well and be so close to you, when all you ever want was to hide away from such people as subtly as possible. I feel that people who accept these sudden acts of closeness are people who are insecure on the inside. (Not that I'm not, but maybe in a different way?) Such acts allow one to feel accepted, feel wanted. But is it acts of genuine friendship? Or is it just mere fill in for those empty gaps that they are feeling?
This sudden want to jot down these opinions is due to some random show that I watched last week. The male lead was strongly influenced by the peer pressure of this new female colleague, basking in the attention that she gave, and submitting to her subtle ways of coercing him into believing that his one true love was not the one for him. How could this absurdity happen?! I could not comprehend whether it was due to the female colleague's selfish intents of wanting this new friend's and everyone's attention all to herself, or was it because she was too messed up herself, in her own relationship, that she would frown upon the happiness of the male lead, trying means to destroy it. Which by the way, both are equally evil and annoying. In another light, what was the male lead thinking about, giving up his relationship just like that?
I genuinely believe that only people whom I have known for years are considered close to me, and are likely to be the ones I want to share my life with. Though this thought may seem flawed, but it is just a normal act of self-protection in my personal opinion. Why should I give up what I feel strongly about and what I believed in as my future, just because of some new person who came by and appeared to "know everything" about me from the outside, but barely nothing on the inside? I want to live life based on my own decisions and thoughts. It is my life after all.
Furthermore, I also feel that sometimes people should just keep their judgements of other peoples' relationships, both family and love, to themselves. Who gave anyone the right to judge something that is not theirs, not their own experience? No one. Thus, no one except those in the relationship can and should pass judgements and make decisions, as after all, it is their relationship, not anyone else's.
It is easy to ponder about this right of judgement, but may actually be a fairly difficult task to act upon to some who cannot just mind their own business. Sometimes it is just too easy and convenient to pass judgements about others. We have all been there, done that.
And of course this means I turned off the tv without watching the show till the end. The absurdity was too overwhelming. Though it might not happen in reality in such proportions of exaggeration, it somehow still pollutes the mind and incite feelings of uneasiness.
(Wow, I could go on and write an entire essay with main arguments and proper paragraphing on this topic.)